I believe..

Tuesday, June 29, 2004

quoted from unknown


I believe - that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.


I believe - that no matter how good a friend is they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.


I believe - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.


I believe - that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.


I believe - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.


I believe - that you can keep going long after you can't.


I believe - that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.


I believe - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.


I believe - that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.


I believe - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.


I believe - that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time! .


I believe - that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.


I believe - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.


I believe - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.


I believe - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.


I believe - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.


I believe - that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.


I believe - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.


I believe - that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.


I believe - that your life can be changed in a matter of hour's by people who don't even know you.


I believe - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

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Girl Friends

Monday, June 28, 2004

by anonym

A young wife sat on a sofa in Bukit Timah on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.

As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes
in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter,

"Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older, No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that "girlfriends" are not only your friends, but your sisters, your daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."

'What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman for goodness sake, a grownup, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.

After 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:
Times passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up. Love waxes and wanes. Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget favours. Men don't call when they say they will...

BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you, A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.

My daughter, sisters, mother, sisters-in-law, mother-in-law, aunties, nieces, cousins, extended family, and friends bless my life! The world wouldn't be the same without them, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

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Searching for the Most Romantic Man

Monday, June 14, 2004

Oprah’s show hari ini dengan tema « searching for the most romantic man » benar-benar mengharu biru. Salah satu lelaki terpilih digambarkan sebagai seorang yang sangat romantis dengan tetap kokoh di samping kekasihnya yang terserang kanker payudara. Saking penuh perhatiannya, tiap kali berangkat kerja, selalu saja ia kembali sejenak, sekilas melihat kekasih hatinya sekali lagi.

Tiap hari, tak lupa secarik memo dan kartu-kartu ia selipkan. Ungkapan cinta dan terima kasih, karena bersedia membersihkan rumah. Kata-kata seperti “she is everything to me. Every breath I take, is dedicated for Lisa..” bertebaran di mana-mana.

Yeah..yeah..
Romantisme memang mengagungkan, melenakan. Membawa orang ke dunia lain..kelimpungan..melayang-layang. Aku jadi ingat ungkapan teman yang akan menikah untuk kedua kalinya di usia bawah 30 tahun…
“Pernikahan ini, Pay..luar biasa..melambung, melenting dalam deburan ombak ..membawaku menggeragas ke angkasa”
Luar biasa. Dia sedang berada pada fase euphoria, rupanya. Jadi kubiarkan saja.

Dalam budaya yang porak poranda ini, ada pergerakan baru dalam tiap hubungan antar manusia. Di satu sisi, perselingkuhan, stand night party, perceraian, perpisahan merupakan hal-hal yang biasa dan lumrah. Namun dunia juga menyisakan orang-orang yang mengikat hati nuraninya, pada sebuah kesetiaan, dedikasi penuh. Berada di tengah-tengah kebimbangan, antara lust dan love yang sangat, sangat tipis.

Semua itu membawaku berkelana pada sebuah tanya, apakah kebahagiaan itu ? Apakah percintaan, helaan nafas memang harusnya didedikasikan pada satu suara ?

Aku baca berulang-ulang tulisan yang dibuat oleh Harun Yahya, penulis produktif Turki yang luar biasa itu. Membuatku mati rasa pada romantisme yang aku saksikan tiap-tiap hari. Untuk yang tertarik artikelnya, email me
Tapi manusia memang diijinkan untuk bersikap lemah. Ia memang dilahirkan dengan cacat menetap itu: bersifat lalai dan cenderung memperturutkan hawa nafsu. Mungkin itu mengapa, setelah tua dan lelah berkelana, orang mulai kembali mencari, cinta yang hakiki dan lari pada Tuhannya. Mungkin.

Blogged on 7:42 PM by Upay

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